Grimlock ♥ Ultra Magnus

So first of all, mini-rant.   Went up and down the stairs like four times, from upstairs to basement.  I can feel my heart beat in my skull.   So, yeeeah, that's still happening. 

But let me talk about radical acceptance.   Or more accurately, acceptance of the radical.   I was talking about this Jezebel article again today, to someone I know in real life.   

http://allhailgrimlock.booklikes.com/post/743209/wtf-jezebel-

Anyway, I was thinking about acceptance, particularly of radical lifestyles.   I was talking to someone about a tweet that came through on my timeline, about this documentary: 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2534494/Secrets-men-love-dress-rubber-dolls-revealed-new-Channel-4-documentary.html

This isn't the exact article, though, and I'm having trouble finding the tweet.   

http://www.businessinsider.com/documentary-on-men-who-dress-like-dolls-2014-1

This has one of the quotes I'm looking for: '"When I walk into a place, they see a large black man and think automatically, 'He's going to rob me'," Dominique said in the first episode. "Whereas as a female they're like, 'Oh, she's really sexy, she's really cute, she's really curvy.' I notice that when I'm a sexy female, I get treated completely differently."'

Also: 'Joel, a 28-year-old bartender from Essex, explained in the documentary's first episode that he feels a sense of escapism while masking since he is able to let out his inner persona. "Dominique," another masker from the Bronx, also noted feeling more comfortable when she was dressed as a doll.' (Which is a new one for me, but reinforces the point I'm about to make.)

The woman who tweeted this said she found it creepy, and as if it were objectifying women.    I think coming out as technosexual has made me more sensitive to other people, particularly those in this type of odd minority.  Before, I probably would have cracked a raunchy joke.   This time, however, I pointed out that the article she linked to and which I can't find, particularly the quote about getting treated differently, made me feel that this wasn't about objectifying women, or creepy, so much as more of a more extreme form of transvestitism.   That is, transvestites are not objectifying women, nor creepy, and they focus on how it makes them feel.   It feels good to them.   (Please note, not all, if many, men who dress up in these suits are gay, just as many transvestites aren't gay.)   The woman conceded that she might have to watch the documentary.   (Now I could be wrong - for the majority, it could potentially be an objectification thing, but it didn't seem like it to me from the quotes chosen for the articles.)  

And here's the thing about what both Jezebel and these tweets say.   Creepy?   Because some technosexuals or maskers are creepy, the whole community is?   Except that many white, straight men are creepy.   White, black, straight, hispanic, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender.   Mix and match nationality, skin color, and sexual preference, and you will find someone being a creepy asshole.   I could cherry pick straight people's creepy quotes, or gays, or transgenders, and use the worst of the worst.   That doesn't make the community creepy though.   It just means that someone who identifies themselves as technosexual, a masker, straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender is a creepy asshole, or has at the very least said something creepy and douchy at one point in their life.   

However, since maskers and technosexuals are less well known and have less of a strengthened community to stand up for them, it's easy to bypass asking them if they really think this little of women, and instead go straight for the kill.   There's no organization to fight back, is there?   When you send that out in twitter, you don't really expect anyone else to accept this.  Or ask if they're not hurting anyone, and if it's more about how they feel, why should we judge them?   

So it's exciting to make documentaries, and watch, and get titillated instead of stand up and question the status quo.   And it's easy for women to get hyper vigilant about their rights, but not everything is an attack on us.   Sometimes it's not about us at all - sometimes it's about how someone feels, how something makes them feel.   

And as a final note, I've been discriminated against because I'm Jewish and a woman.   I've yet to find out that someone's had it in for me for being a technosexual.  I  kinda like that.   The one thing that makes me more fringe than the others, and it's been left in peace.   

Anyway... sorry for the rambling again, or not if you enjoyed it.   I hope someone got something from this.